Well I was cleaning my house today. Yes! You read it correctly. I WAS CLEANING MY HOUSE. And as expected, Ragha started to think when he is bored. And so comes this post…
I was thinking whether how much you spend equates to how much you love someone.
Take these two scenarios for example - a guy meets his lover on her birthday.
Scenario1:
He meets her. Brings her to a posh restaurant like Fish & Co. (at Dhoby Ghaut where the cheapest food is like $13.90 served with plain water) and then move on to have dessert at Haagen Daz (where the cheapest ice-cream – ONE scoop is about $8.80, if I’m not wrong). He buys her a dress bought from Prada or Guess or Gucci (I don’t know all these shops – Sarah and Praveena told me) which will cost a bomb. And then follows her back home in a cab. Basically, he just pays for everything that night. All these, happens in just an hour or so.
Scenario 2:
He meets her. Brings her to 925 (Yishun) to buy her favourite meal – Chicken rice. And then move on to have dessert at the roadside buying ice-cream from the ‘ice-cream uncle’. He buys her a dress bought from the ‘pasar malam’ (night market – although most of the shops are like open in the afternoon.) A dress that she wanted but didn’t have money with her (either because she forgot her wallet or only brings ATM cards or is really cannot afford it). And then he follows her home, walking. Basically, he pays for everything that night (notice the difference in amount). However, he spends the whole day with her.
In which scenario would the girl feel loved? In the one where the guy spends like his two weeks’ savings on her? Or the one where the guy buys stuff that she loves although they don’t finish up his savings?
(If you are a guy reading this post, please make the necessary amendments, especially the part where the guy buys a dress for her. It would be like “the girl buys a shirt/pair of jeans for him”.)
I really don’t know! Would how much you spend tell someone how much you love them? Or would the time you spend with them tell how much you love them? Or is it just giving them what they like that will show the immense love you on them?
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Non-conformist. That’s what I would call myself (Karthik calls himself that too). I really just can’t follow rules and belief, especially if there is no rationale behind it. Indians are just very good at doing this though (I know I’m an Indian too). I think I have blogged about it before.
They just follow beliefs because their parents/ grandparents said so. And then they pass it to down to the future generations. And when people like me, ask “Why so?”, all they do is scold and say I’m a rebellious kid and that I will never survive in the future.
Hello! Do you see why disparity exists in India? Do you see the widening gap between the rich and the poor? You can blame the government for this. The government just seems to be putting in TOO LITTLE effort to alleviate the situation. And you have to blame the Indians as well. They are just too rigid with their beliefs and tradition. Too rigid for their own good!
Not just poverty. But the lifestyle of Indians is very narrow because of their beliefs. I’m not here to slam their beliefs or condemn them, but the beliefs in those days may not just simply suit today’s lifestyle. Whether religion, tradition or culture, changes are necessary. I’m not asking them to forgo their beliefs and follow the western lifestyle. Teenagers these days are very much influenced by the western way of living. Yes, their (the western) lifestyle may seem the best. But then, we can always integrate our way of life into that particular lifestyle. Or, even still, we can adapt part of the western culture into our rich Indian culture. Nothing wrong. As long as our roots remain intact and do not get destroyed over time.
Take Deepavali as an example. It was a must that we get up before sun rise, apply oil on our heads, bath and head to our relatives’ house in traditional costumes. Now, not many follow this. They wake up early, not before sun rise though. Some don’t even visit their relatives. Those who do, do not wear traditional costumes. For example, guys are supposed to be in Jippa. Now, they just wear the Jippa top with jeans.
The time and dressing may have changed a little. We can see the different cultural influences in our dressings. But that hasn’t changed the essence of Deepavali. Indians still celebrate Deepavali and follow the rituals that come together. Deepavali has indeed undergone many changes but the beliefs and tradition are still respected and followed.
When such a festival itself can adapt to the changing world, I don’t see why we humans (Indians in particular) cannot do the same? People may say, ‘talking is easy but doing it isn’t’. Well, if you aren’t gonna give a try, how would you know? If this is considered a risk, take small steps to create a change, so that you won’t fall back hard if it doesn’t work out.
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I remember asking my friend Shalini (Shorty Shalu) this question. “Why do people cry when their loved ones die?”. Haha. People may think that it’s the dumbest question. Many people told me that they cry because they are losing their precious one. They can no longer be with them and that there won’t me any precious moments with them anymore – just the past memories that they leave behind.
I have never seen the death of a precious one. Not that I want to see. But, c’mon. Reality. All of us have to face the death of someone close. I wouldn’t know whether I will cry when I’m in such situation. Maybe the tears are part of a natural process, where the death is a stimulus and then the brain cell signals the tear glands. And all that signal amplification and then the response is to CRY.
My argument here is why cry when the person has left? You cry because you feel that you have lost someone special? Why not you let them know how special they are to you when they are alive? Rather than crying and regretting. Why not make them feel special when they are with you? Why not express your love whenever there’s a chance? Why not reflect on the memories once a while and not just when they are gone?
I really don’t know! Is death THAT painful? Time will have the answer.
