Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I was thinking of this particular situation. Imagine two ladders. Side by side. You are climbing one. Your friend on another. You both are working colleagues. You both start the journey together. He isn’t as good as you and he is very much dependent on you. He seeks help from you almost all the time and you being “Mr.Nice” help him in all the ways you can. Little did you realize that after each help, he is moving up the ladder, faster than you are.
After a few years, you look up and realize that he is 10 steps above you. And you are just a few steps above the original step where you started from. You know deep in your heart that it is because of your helps that he is actually up there. He knows it too.
Nonetheless, he still takes the effort to come down, occasionally to where you stand. For what? To seek for more help. And you being the always nice one, still continue to help. You know that each help brings him further away from you and that it does not reap a single benefit to you. You have to work triple hard to actually reach the step your friend is at. But each time you help your friend, he moves two steps higher.
Eventually, after many many years, you look up to see your friend as a tiny dot, far above from you. You continue looking up to see whether he comes down at all or even turns back to wave or at least smile. You wait but nothing happens.
After sometime, you realize that the step you have been standing on has started to give way. It’s either you move up fast or you let go of the ladder and go in search of another ladder. What would you do?
It’s not recognition for the help that you did that you want from him. It’s not an award either. It’s not the word “thanks”, although it can be simply said, whether or not sincere. It’s just acknowledging your presence that you need. To you the help may seem huge. To him it could just be minor…
So, how far can you render your help to people? Is helping a boon or a bane?
After a few years, you look up and realize that he is 10 steps above you. And you are just a few steps above the original step where you started from. You know deep in your heart that it is because of your helps that he is actually up there. He knows it too.
Nonetheless, he still takes the effort to come down, occasionally to where you stand. For what? To seek for more help. And you being the always nice one, still continue to help. You know that each help brings him further away from you and that it does not reap a single benefit to you. You have to work triple hard to actually reach the step your friend is at. But each time you help your friend, he moves two steps higher.
Eventually, after many many years, you look up to see your friend as a tiny dot, far above from you. You continue looking up to see whether he comes down at all or even turns back to wave or at least smile. You wait but nothing happens.
After sometime, you realize that the step you have been standing on has started to give way. It’s either you move up fast or you let go of the ladder and go in search of another ladder. What would you do?
It’s not recognition for the help that you did that you want from him. It’s not an award either. It’s not the word “thanks”, although it can be simply said, whether or not sincere. It’s just acknowledging your presence that you need. To you the help may seem huge. To him it could just be minor…
So, how far can you render your help to people? Is helping a boon or a bane?
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I realized that someday in everybody’s life, there will be a major turn that they will have to take. It’s like they have no choice because they can’t go back and the road ahead is blocked. That major turn can come anytime and it will of course decided the rest of you life. For some it can come as early as 20, for other it could be 35, for others it could be at 47. But whichever age it comes at, that turn is the turn that GOD has decided for you.
All these while when you make decisions, you have many options that you can take. You narrow them down as much as possible to choose the one you think is best. Sometimes, you can make a U-turn, sometimes you just carry on and wait till the road mergers with the main road. Sometimes, you just go through the tunnel long enough until you see some light ahead and you know that GOD is still there. Some just speed through life as though it is some expressway.
But this one major turn that you take in life, where you have no other options is one that GOD has decided for you. That’s called fate. Whatever happens before this is you error, your human error. Whatever happens after this is called fate – what GOD wrote way before you were born and the life GOD has paved for you. For me, I haven’t reached that major turn yet but I’m lost at all the windings and excessive pathways to take!
We are driving on an ever-changing road called life. What’s most important is to turn at the right bends at the right speed at the right time yet holding on the steering wheel called principles!
¶ 11:12 AM I realized that someday in everybody’s life, there will be a major turn that they will have to take. It’s like they have no choice because they can’t go back and the road ahead is blocked. That major turn can come anytime and it will of course decided the rest of you life. For some it can come as early as 20, for other it could be 35, for others it could be at 47. But whichever age it comes at, that turn is the turn that GOD has decided for you.
All these while when you make decisions, you have many options that you can take. You narrow them down as much as possible to choose the one you think is best. Sometimes, you can make a U-turn, sometimes you just carry on and wait till the road mergers with the main road. Sometimes, you just go through the tunnel long enough until you see some light ahead and you know that GOD is still there. Some just speed through life as though it is some expressway.
But this one major turn that you take in life, where you have no other options is one that GOD has decided for you. That’s called fate. Whatever happens before this is you error, your human error. Whatever happens after this is called fate – what GOD wrote way before you were born and the life GOD has paved for you. For me, I haven’t reached that major turn yet but I’m lost at all the windings and excessive pathways to take!
We are driving on an ever-changing road called life. What’s most important is to turn at the right bends at the right speed at the right time yet holding on the steering wheel called principles!
