Cheers,
RaghaBoi
(NavaKannan) :) ¶ 9:13 PM 0 Comments
It hit me today when someone I first thought was reliable, because of the image he portrayed when i first met him, turned out to be untrustable.
He isn't the first though. I have met many who don't seem to fit the image they first portray.
Let me play a 'gemini' role - that is to argue on both sides - that it's not the person's mistake and the other being done on purpose.
Case One: It isn't my mistake that the image i first portray isn't my true self.
Well, true. Sometimes, when u first create an impression, you cannot be blamed. Because you don't intentionally do it. It's just that when u meet this new person, u tend to be different, cos u are either shy or just uncomfortable being around with new people.
Take me for an example. When my Navaz first met me, they thought that i was an innocent dude - mainly quiet. That was their first impression. Or at least, specifically for my Kadai Kutti Thangachi Kanegal. But, further during that day, they came to realise that I'm not a quiet person afterall. Noisy would be an understatement. Was it my fault that I was quiet when i first met them? Or was it wrong on their part to think that i'm a quiet person? All the more, that was the first time i meeting them and they were a huge group of girls and me, a single guy - a thorn amongst the roses (and it still exists that way, by the way) :)
Another imaginary example could be, just the exact opposite of me. He could like a typical 'anjadi' (rowdy that is) when u first meet him. But as time goes, u realise that he is a gem of a person and that rowdy is a non-existent word in his dictionary. It's just a sad story where his taste suits one of a rowdy, thus portraying him as one, when he has not a single link with the rowdy-lifestyle.
Now let's move on to Case Two: I always want to create a good impression, although it is not exactly who i am.
It is because of the phrase 'first impression counts' that causes people to behave like this.They want to make sure that the first time they meet someone, they should be 'mr/mrs. nice' so that they people will think highly of them, respecting them. And as the days go by, they tend to show their true colours.
Take me again for example. My Navaz again. I could have been quiet because i wanted the girls to think that i'm innocent. So that they will actually even bother making friend with me. And after we become friends, i slowly show them my true colour - mr.sarcastic! :)
This is the two 'reasons/excuses' that i can put forth when i think of the phrase, 'first impression counts'. How true is it - i seriously don't know.
It just basically means 'do not judge the book by the cover'. Know someone in depth before u even come to a conclusion about that person's character! Not all of them are what they look like - I, personally, am a good example for this :)
However, there do exist some people who just seem to portray their character all so explicitly, such that one look at them and u can identify what kind of person/character they are. Haha. It's easier this way though, to find someone you want to be with forever.
PS: Kanegal reminded me. When i first knew her, i never thought she was a 'weak' girl (not exactly weakling kinda thing la). Due to her voice and her confidence, i tout she was physically and emotionally strong. Both she proved me wrong, in the past few years. Emotionally, she has shown tremendous 'improvement', if that's what u can call it. But physically. Haha. I still remember how she FAINTED in Commonwealth Muneeswarar temple, during Guru Peyarchi. She was standing there and suddenly, down she went! Haha. Funny it was, it was damaging for our dear Kanegal's image.
{Honestly, this has veri little link to my blog topic today. Just decided to add this in for entertainment purpose. :) Laughter is the best medicine u see}.
Happy Teachers' Day. to all my teachers from XPS (Xishan Pri), SJI and NYJC (Nanyang JC).
&&& my sister and her NIE gang!
&&& Happy ONAM!!! to my dearest Dappa Chechi and all others who celebrate it!
- Guys with good command of english are sissies/gays.
- Guys who are in performing arts are sissies/ gays.
Wondering why its just this two? Well ask yourself. How many of you have actually thought such things?
And for your information. I totally don't believe in this and am pretty sure this is a mere stereotype that evolved out of jealousy!
And why are some people considered a double headed snake? Firstly, why snake? Couldnt they find another animal?! Snakes are like super cute and are powerful. Using them to describe an insulting, unliked personality is like degrading that animal. Anyway, the snake is usually seen as a symbol of the evil/satan. Until now, I dunno why!!! Haha.
Why double headed? Humans have a single head but they say two different things (two kinda personality), that's why we call them double headed snake right? Why not just call them double tongued? Or worst still, although it will be a pure insult to Gemini (THAT'S ME), call them a Gemini.
Don't ask me why Im even bothering to actually ponder about this. My main topic here is why people just can't be sincere and truthful. They have something in their heart and say something else. Im not just referring to the negative things that they say. Positive comments as well.
Example of a positive thing. They miss someone. But they hide that feeling and just ignore the person when they SMS or call, because they don't want to show that they miss him/her.
Example of a negative thing. They hate that person to the max but when they meet him/her, they run and hug. For what?! Nobody knows.
I got one explaination of why people become double headed snakes. To avoid situations/ problems. Haha. I mean, i would personally not state what i feel if i know that there will be a problem. But i will never bury it deep. Cos i will bring it up later, when the situation is calm - calm as kallang river. Although this isnt exactly healthy, its the best way if you wanna avoid problems. However, i still prefer being direct, there and then, on the spot!!! Saves alot of time and misunderstanding.
Hopefullie people are like that too... (Suthu i say)
Love is torture.
Words can't just explain.
Cheers,
RaghaBoi
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