Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Bet many of you would have heard this phrase "first impression counts". I'm just wondering, how true is that?
It hit me today when someone I first thought was reliable, because of the image he portrayed when i first met him, turned out to be untrustable.
He isn't the first though. I have met many who don't seem to fit the image they first portray.
Let me play a 'gemini' role - that is to argue on both sides - that it's not the person's mistake and the other being done on purpose.
Case One: It isn't my mistake that the image i first portray isn't my true self.
Well, true. Sometimes, when u first create an impression, you cannot be blamed. Because you don't intentionally do it. It's just that when u meet this new person, u tend to be different, cos u are either shy or just uncomfortable being around with new people.
Take me for an example. When my Navaz first met me, they thought that i was an innocent dude - mainly quiet. That was their first impression. Or at least, specifically for my Kadai Kutti Thangachi Kanegal. But, further during that day, they came to realise that I'm not a quiet person afterall. Noisy would be an understatement. Was it my fault that I was quiet when i first met them? Or was it wrong on their part to think that i'm a quiet person? All the more, that was the first time i meeting them and they were a huge group of girls and me, a single guy - a thorn amongst the roses (and it still exists that way, by the way) :)
Another imaginary example could be, just the exact opposite of me. He could like a typical 'anjadi' (rowdy that is) when u first meet him. But as time goes, u realise that he is a gem of a person and that rowdy is a non-existent word in his dictionary. It's just a sad story where his taste suits one of a rowdy, thus portraying him as one, when he has not a single link with the rowdy-lifestyle.
Now let's move on to Case Two: I always want to create a good impression, although it is not exactly who i am.
It is because of the phrase 'first impression counts' that causes people to behave like this.They want to make sure that the first time they meet someone, they should be 'mr/mrs. nice' so that they people will think highly of them, respecting them. And as the days go by, they tend to show their true colours.
Take me again for example. My Navaz again. I could have been quiet because i wanted the girls to think that i'm innocent. So that they will actually even bother making friend with me. And after we become friends, i slowly show them my true colour - mr.sarcastic! :)
This is the two 'reasons/excuses' that i can put forth when i think of the phrase, 'first impression counts'. How true is it - i seriously don't know.
It just basically means 'do not judge the book by the cover'. Know someone in depth before u even come to a conclusion about that person's character! Not all of them are what they look like - I, personally, am a good example for this :)
However, there do exist some people who just seem to portray their character all so explicitly, such that one look at them and u can identify what kind of person/character they are. Haha. It's easier this way though, to find someone you want to be with forever.
PS: Kanegal reminded me. When i first knew her, i never thought she was a 'weak' girl (not exactly weakling kinda thing la). Due to her voice and her confidence, i tout she was physically and emotionally strong. Both she proved me wrong, in the past few years. Emotionally, she has shown tremendous 'improvement', if that's what u can call it. But physically. Haha. I still remember how she FAINTED in Commonwealth Muneeswarar temple, during Guru Peyarchi. She was standing there and suddenly, down she went! Haha. Funny it was, it was damaging for our dear Kanegal's image.
{Honestly, this has veri little link to my blog topic today. Just decided to add this in for entertainment purpose. :) Laughter is the best medicine u see}.
It hit me today when someone I first thought was reliable, because of the image he portrayed when i first met him, turned out to be untrustable.
He isn't the first though. I have met many who don't seem to fit the image they first portray.
Let me play a 'gemini' role - that is to argue on both sides - that it's not the person's mistake and the other being done on purpose.
Case One: It isn't my mistake that the image i first portray isn't my true self.
Well, true. Sometimes, when u first create an impression, you cannot be blamed. Because you don't intentionally do it. It's just that when u meet this new person, u tend to be different, cos u are either shy or just uncomfortable being around with new people.
Take me for an example. When my Navaz first met me, they thought that i was an innocent dude - mainly quiet. That was their first impression. Or at least, specifically for my Kadai Kutti Thangachi Kanegal. But, further during that day, they came to realise that I'm not a quiet person afterall. Noisy would be an understatement. Was it my fault that I was quiet when i first met them? Or was it wrong on their part to think that i'm a quiet person? All the more, that was the first time i meeting them and they were a huge group of girls and me, a single guy - a thorn amongst the roses (and it still exists that way, by the way) :)
Another imaginary example could be, just the exact opposite of me. He could like a typical 'anjadi' (rowdy that is) when u first meet him. But as time goes, u realise that he is a gem of a person and that rowdy is a non-existent word in his dictionary. It's just a sad story where his taste suits one of a rowdy, thus portraying him as one, when he has not a single link with the rowdy-lifestyle.
Now let's move on to Case Two: I always want to create a good impression, although it is not exactly who i am.
It is because of the phrase 'first impression counts' that causes people to behave like this.They want to make sure that the first time they meet someone, they should be 'mr/mrs. nice' so that they people will think highly of them, respecting them. And as the days go by, they tend to show their true colours.
Take me again for example. My Navaz again. I could have been quiet because i wanted the girls to think that i'm innocent. So that they will actually even bother making friend with me. And after we become friends, i slowly show them my true colour - mr.sarcastic! :)
This is the two 'reasons/excuses' that i can put forth when i think of the phrase, 'first impression counts'. How true is it - i seriously don't know.
It just basically means 'do not judge the book by the cover'. Know someone in depth before u even come to a conclusion about that person's character! Not all of them are what they look like - I, personally, am a good example for this :)
However, there do exist some people who just seem to portray their character all so explicitly, such that one look at them and u can identify what kind of person/character they are. Haha. It's easier this way though, to find someone you want to be with forever.
PS: Kanegal reminded me. When i first knew her, i never thought she was a 'weak' girl (not exactly weakling kinda thing la). Due to her voice and her confidence, i tout she was physically and emotionally strong. Both she proved me wrong, in the past few years. Emotionally, she has shown tremendous 'improvement', if that's what u can call it. But physically. Haha. I still remember how she FAINTED in Commonwealth Muneeswarar temple, during Guru Peyarchi. She was standing there and suddenly, down she went! Haha. Funny it was, it was damaging for our dear Kanegal's image.
{Honestly, this has veri little link to my blog topic today. Just decided to add this in for entertainment purpose. :) Laughter is the best medicine u see}.
Psychologically Devoted.
In the deepest forest i stay.
Somewhere where,
I can see you
Crying.
Crying cos of the pain
that i never created.
Cheers,
RaghaBoi :)
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