Wednesday, December 2, 2009
A friend of mine asked me this question yesterday,
"Promises are meant to be broken. What is your view?"
This question made me think. It has been many years since i promised anyone. Why? Because i felt the word promise demeans the term trust. Let me explain myself.
Firstly, replying to my friend's question.
If promises are meant to be broken, what's the point of having them? It's just like a rules. What is the point of having rules when all we do is break them? Might as well don't have rules right???
Personally i feel that promises are meant to be kept. It's just that people don't seem to see the reason behind promises. On the contrary, they give promises with a hidden reason. Promises are given like candy during a kids party. That's how insulting promise has become. :(
Coming back to why i feel that promises demean trust.
Why does someone ask hif/her friend to promise? Because he wants assurance of something. Let's take a look at an example. Peter wants to tell a secret to Jane. He makes her promise that she will not tell this to anyone. This is a rather template scenario when a promise is given.
My question is, if Peter trusted Jane, wouldn't he just tell her the secret instead of making her promise? It makes it look like Peter trust the promise (which ever way it is given - palm over palm, last finger cross, verbally, etc), more than trusting Jane herself. It looks like the 7 letter word is more trustworthy than the person itself. By saying ' i promise' Peter can trust Jane. But doesn't trust Jane when she doesn't promise - is that the issue here? Promise does indeed demean a basic trust between a relationship.
Talking about a relationship - marriage. Taking the vow of marriage (or whatever it is called), does that demean trust too?!!!
Oops. Better not go there. That issue involves the government, religion and love!
Oh, love is still bullshit!
"Promises are meant to be broken. What is your view?"
This question made me think. It has been many years since i promised anyone. Why? Because i felt the word promise demeans the term trust. Let me explain myself.
Firstly, replying to my friend's question.
If promises are meant to be broken, what's the point of having them? It's just like a rules. What is the point of having rules when all we do is break them? Might as well don't have rules right???
Personally i feel that promises are meant to be kept. It's just that people don't seem to see the reason behind promises. On the contrary, they give promises with a hidden reason. Promises are given like candy during a kids party. That's how insulting promise has become. :(
Coming back to why i feel that promises demean trust.
Why does someone ask hif/her friend to promise? Because he wants assurance of something. Let's take a look at an example. Peter wants to tell a secret to Jane. He makes her promise that she will not tell this to anyone. This is a rather template scenario when a promise is given.
My question is, if Peter trusted Jane, wouldn't he just tell her the secret instead of making her promise? It makes it look like Peter trust the promise (which ever way it is given - palm over palm, last finger cross, verbally, etc), more than trusting Jane herself. It looks like the 7 letter word is more trustworthy than the person itself. By saying ' i promise' Peter can trust Jane. But doesn't trust Jane when she doesn't promise - is that the issue here? Promise does indeed demean a basic trust between a relationship.
Talking about a relationship - marriage. Taking the vow of marriage (or whatever it is called), does that demean trust too?!!!
Oops. Better not go there. That issue involves the government, religion and love!
Oh, love is still bullshit!
Flowing down the river,
it wasn't water.
Tears.
Tears from the shore.
The question the shore is dying to ask
"Won't you ever stay?
You leave me everytime we meet.
And the scar u leave is pretty deep."
Bold insanity,
RaghaBoi :)
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